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So I have a problem at work. I work in a very small department (6 people, including our manager) and I genuinely like everyone in the department. However, I hate the work and, recently, the dynamics of the department have changed for a variety of reasons. Part of it has to do with someone who joined our department a while back who has upset a coupel people in the department. Some of the reasons people are upset are legitimate, but quite a few are just BS that have been affected by people's personal issues and feelings. As a result, this woman has been treated differently and held to a higher standard that any of us have ever been held to. It's to the point where it really seems like the main goal is to force her out.Meanwhile, I was given the responsibility of mentoring her, partly because she was getting different feedback from different people in the department and partly because of the personal issues between her and another co-worker that have created a situation where they just can't work productively together without one of them offending the other. I can't put into words how frustrating it is to try to mentor someone when I feel like others in my department who I've worked with for a long time just want her gone. At this point, the situation is so bad and irreconcilable that she should go for her sake and for the department's sake. However, the only way I see this happening is if she ends up taking the fall for everything, which I definitely don't think is fair.To add to that, there is a crappy attitude towards other departments that we work with. We all agree that communication with some of the other departments is poor, and there is blame on both sides. Yet, despite us agreeing we all feel that way, there are a couple people who think having meetings with the other departments to discuss our differences, hash out our disagreements and try to offer some explanation and come to an understanding is a waste of our time. One person in particular doesn't feel like she should have to explain herself and that people should just go with the policies she sets and not expect an explanation. This is particularly frustrating to me since I've been pushing for meetings of this type for years and always take the time to explain myself and my rationale behind my decisions. I even encourage people to talk to their manager if we still disagree and can't come to an agreement and assure them I do not take it personally. So I feel like a polar bear stranded by himself on an iceberg floating in the middle of the ocean. Or course, the "because I said so" attitude doesn't play too well with the other departments and our department is hated by the rest of the project at this point (no, that's not hyperbole....our department has even been the subject of drawings around the office mocking us).Here's my problem....I don't know how to address the issue and get myself out of a really bad situation without making the situation worse, throwing people I like under the bus and making enemies out of people I consider friends, or putting myself in a really bad financial situation. It's very possible all three could happen. I'm at a loss and don't know what to do. I just know that I feel so frustrated and helpless and I can't get anything done.Advice? Suggestions? Job offers?
Thanks 44. Yeah, that's my plan. The problem - as you well know - is there really aren't many jobs out there. Coming into work this morning, I felt physically ill and nauseous. I've had stressful situations at work in the past, but nothing like this that made me feel physically ill. So I just hope I find something soon. Sucks to basically choose between feeling like crap mentally and physically or being homeless and broke...which I guess ends up with the same results.I don't have a solution to this right now, but I do know one thing.....this ain't no way to live. Thanks again, 44, for taking the time to read and reply.
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